The perfect way to start ridiculous arguments!
I won’t get into my rant here tonight this morning as i’m simply being irrational at this moment.
However I will say that the complete and utter lack of regard that people seem to have when you’re getting married (‘what, you mean *your* wedding isn’t all about *me* … huh?!?!?!) has simply astonished me.
Warning to the wise folks : elope.
Adam
This is an extension of a post I wrote quite some time ago, right about here…..
Because the last time I saw this post I was in a different mindset.
The core of my post today is to encourage you to watch the movie : Stranger Than Fiction. A brilliant tale starring two geniuses of the the screen (Dustin Hoffman, Emma Thompson, both supporting), and a lead in Will Farrell that was completely unexpected however brilliantly cast.
The movie I will not go into a great detail about. The meaning of the movie I will indulge a little in my post here:
Stranger than fiction asks the basic question : If you knew you were going to die, how would you rate your life? (ok, two questions, the second being: What might you do to make it the life you truly want?)
Sounds pretty simple in reality, but dig deeper and you realise that life is chaotic, difficult, mundane (and let’s be honest) inconsequential …. and many would say that the biggest and most influencing items are really out of our hands…
What this movie does is go to town to challenge you that your life is something that you are active participant in, even if you choose to make no choices, you still make choices (know what I mean?). For while you need to accept what you can’t be in control of, and while you can’t make it all turn in your favour, there are a huge number of things that you can do to make your life the life that you want them to be.
This view of the world has been synonymous with my view of my own life over the past couple of years. After some pretty reasonable weight and alcohol issues, I have slowly, but surely put my life on a steady path, and the more steady this path becomes, the more I find that I ask myself the real questions.
- Am I a good person?
- Where do I fit in the world?
- Do I deserve all the shit i’ve accumulated?
… and for the most part you can either be ignorant, arrogant or terrified as the media and external influences generally tell you that you’re either wonderful and fabulous (and have you seen our new hair product to make you even *more* fabulous?!!?!) or that you’re morally corrupt and basically if you don’t repent (ie now!) you’re going straight to hell.
So what does one do?
You need to live your life. You just need to live your life. Make choices, take risks, be awed by those things you don’t understand and constantly curious about the things that you’d like to understand.
Go to space camp, learn how to back cupcakes, commit to something that scares you, walk away from things that are hurting you, take that new job, get a new car, give money to charity ….. and for something different, tell those that matter to you most that you love them every.single.day.
Because we all need to remember, none of us are going to make it out of this thing alive.
Adam
