Afternoon All,
Well the last week has bought on an awful amount of change and clarification on many points that have been stewing in my life. If i’m doubling up I apologise, I honestly can’t really remember what i’ve written in my last few posts.
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The parental housemove is progressing nicely. The party (to end all parties, possibly even to rival my 21st) is on the 26th of June. So:
- Casey (and partner)
- Dan (and partner)
- Matt (and partner)
Make sure you’re there for a 7:00pm start. Same rules as always apply. One bottle of alcohol per person to be added to the fruit-punch from the nether-world. (you know the one, the 21st birthday special)….
Oh yes, this year there will be two drums. That’s 80 litres (~16 gallons) of alcoholically charged fruit punch. Happy days people ![]()
p.s - I would ‘invite’ you and all, but if you don’t show without legitimate reason i’ll definitely disown you (and no, that shouldn’t be motivation not to show up!) ![]()
p.s mkII - The parents have also gone and bought a new house closer to the suburbs which is quite nice. All the walls aren’t painted and all the floors need doing which is actually perfect as it gives them something to work on, and make their own choices about the designs/patterns.
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The girl came up on the weekend and we had a great time ….. well, unless I was being a total fool (how unlike me!) and taking on the attitude of a petulant child on crack because I was placed into an uncomfortable position or scenario. Thankfully her strength of resolve (and a swift kick to the behind) has been most appreciated and it comes to make me realise:
a)Why I like her so much, and;
b)Why the journey never ends, you just live and learn and (hopefully) remember your mistakes
In other news she met the parents, met the friends, did the lunch dates and came out (relatively) unscathed. Liked by all and returning the sentiment made me considerably less stressed as all the people in my life have had a strong influence.
We took time out for some mini-drive days to various spots on the Queensland map and the tour not only encompassed the scenery but the context of the places and people who have/had shaped my life in various ways.
It was only at the end of the days that I made the stake to claim that I was looking forward to some new memories with her. Always nice to know you’re making some progress in the world.
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Cried…. twice. Unheard of. Done. Fear and loathing will do that to me. Details will not be forthcoming but necessary situations bought strength to these fears of mine.
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p.s - Parents phoned me on multiple occassions to make sure she was coming back. I think they were more impressed than I was. Always a good sign.
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Bad News: I lost my digital camera
Good News: Insurance is buying me this as a replacement… *drool*
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I have received a few harsh comments from various parties about my relationship starting with the girl and my (perceived) lack of t&e given to other areas of my life.
For the record:
- Yes, I have had less time for other endeavours, but that is fairly standard in any new relationship status.
- No, I have not rejected my friends/loved ones. I have had to make decisions based on certain criteria. This does mean that if I feel people are shutting me out for long enough I have moved on.
- Others I do have genuine regret about losing, but as stated early, understand why they came to pass. From what I can see though people are generally getting some happy vibes going which is all good. Also, some others have (appeared to, I’m not 100% sure yet! :)) drifted, which is very sad but I have to live with.
All of this has come at a time when there is so much change happening outside of my relationship (burgeoning) that there would have been a marked and significant reduction in the human contact hours anyway. I’m not using the girl as a 100% scapegoat and nor would I expect anyone else to.
p.s - Wonton: Dude. Thankyou for one of the nicest comments I’ve had the pleasure of reading. Your grasp and understanding of the sacrifices that are made and the mistakes that are endured is the reason why I ensure I keep you in my life. Perfect comment.
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I move in two weeks people. Two weeks. Unbelievable.
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p.s - To the person (you know who you are) who sent me the employment section of a Sydney newspaper. Thankyou. I am currently going through it and am deeply appreciative.
p.p.s - As earlier noted, your gift is still on the way. (the above two points are mutually exclusive btw…)
p.p.p.s - I am about to go back to the web designer to have things modified a little (cleanups/fixups/text writeups). If anybody would like details added/removed/modified/tampered with, *please* e-mail me at home. You know the details.
Adam
20:02 on April 27th, 2004
If, and I am not saying you did, but if you wrote some of your last post due to my last comment, let me clarify something. I, in no way place any blame for lack of better word on jen for you not having the guts to talk to people who had implaced there trust and friendship in you. Upon returning you told people “we need to talk” then proceeded to avoid and not “talk” to them, these are people who trusted you, believed you were a friend, whether you choose to believe so or not. These are people who are hurt by your lack of caring about the sudden and unexplained end in friendship. Some of these people you have hurt before, apologies coming form you saying you wouldn’t hurt them again, and a forgiveness being given before it was even earnt, due to the faulse belief of a strong friendship. I have so much to say, however if you Adam do not have the decency to talk to me about everything, I will not bother with discussing this further.
have a safe and happy life, remember friendship is not given, it’s earnt, that’s the only thing you taught me.
11:54 on May 7th, 2004
This has been sorted now. Aren’t I sweet
Adam
15:07 on May 7th, 2004
More importantly, please kill me if I ever say ‘aren’t’ again..
*sigh*.. bring on the big city and all it’s expectations…
Adam