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Going Down

March 24th, 2004

Seeing that Smitten has kindly started the topic on going down, I’m going to write a bit of post about boys going down on girls. My own thoughts and feelings, an interactive guide and an opportunity (hopefully) for me to learn some more about what to do and what (definitely) not to do.

(p.s I?m sure the kids at work are going to know a whole lot more about me after reading this post!)

ed: Sex for me is all about the complete experience. There’s no point just jumping in and trying to ride the cowboy (girl?) (though that does have its moments, quickies are great!). However, I’ve always been a fan of slow and steady (and multiple orgasms before you start so you know she’s already satisified!) wins the race.

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Feel free to post any comments/additions/changes or criticisms… I’ve written and modified this thing when i’m in desperate need of sleep, so it’s highly possible it’s terrible.

Think of anything, give me a yell :)

Without further adue…

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For me, I start by holding the girl in my arms. Without doubt this is the most important interaction you can have with a member of the opposite sex. It generates closeness and affection that can’t be expressed with any other gesture.

But alas, I digress…….. Onto the kissing: …. Kissing should be as you both like it as a couple. I like deep kisses and then sliding back to light, easy touches of lips, then rolling back into passionate embrace, tongue and open mouth.
I then raise my hands up from the girls’ waist/back (whichever) and slide them across her neck and up through her hair, leaning my head to one side and gently kissing her on the shoulder. From the shoulder I progress to slowly, slowly, one kiss a time, inch by inch until I’ve moved gently onto her neck and to the backs of her ear lobes. Dependent on the reaction, gentle kisses and bites on the ears.

Back down the neck, onto those beautiful lips (they really are great body parts) and then slowly slide (clean shaven boys!) down underneath her chin and onto the top of her chest. Slide your hands down her arms, over her shoulders and hold her hands gently (or firmly) and kiss back up under her neck and take time to experience her décolletage in intimate possession.
Sliding your hands under the top op her arms and down their sides, slowly slowly start to move your kisses down both her arms, touch fingertips with your tongue and then kiss all the way back to her shoulders and neck.

Going back all the way up to behind her ears, you can usually here a ‘change’ in the voice, the breathing, the holding ….. hands can slide on her behalf and now is always a perfect moment to whisper sweet nothings. Nothing sexual, but definitely sexy. For those in committed relationships, now is the time to open your heart and tell the girl how you feel, but gently and with compassion. Take more time to explore her neck, slide your hands onto her shoulders, massage gently.

Sliding hands back down on her waist, you can start to move her shirt/top to the side and kiss further down her chest. Avoid the breasts but cover the area around, kiss gently and use your tongue to caress her skin.

Gently rubbing her body, stretching your arms down to her legs and slowly gliding fingers up to the insides of her thighs. Close but not too close…. Aggressive but passive, diligent but guided … slide your fingers up the side of her body while slowly gliding your tongue down between her breasts, kissing each centimetre of the way until you reach her belly button. Dependent on the girl you can gently bite, nibble and suck this entire region. Be gentle but firm, listen for the faint tone in her voice, feel her hands and how they react to your gentle to firm embrace of your mouth.

React according to her pleasure zones and marks, ask her gently to quietly whisper ‘more’ or ‘less’… go with her … continue to massage her legs and inner thighs… being careful not to go too far, for that is to be savoured.

To take time is to create tension, and tension creates passion.

(ed: this is what I do next, some girls love their breasts being touched, others get nothing… ask questions boys that’s the only way you find out what she likes… this is just my fantasy/reality that I acted out)

Lift yourself back up, move your tongue and lips onto the bottom of her breasts. Gently kiss and slide your hands up, gentle rubbing as you move your tongue closer to her nipples and layering your teeth as you pick each one to attention. Gently but firmly massage the nipple with your mouth and tongue, bite ever so gently and be alert for the ‘more’ or ‘less’ comments. Once her nipples are hard and with you, slowly massage her breasts, gently, gently running your fingers over her hard nipples, applying your mouth and tongue back to the base of her breasts, ever so lightly making contact with them but allowing her warmth and guidance to move you…

Kiss, kiss, kiss.….. slowly running your hands down her sides, inching your fingers closer to her inner thighs, dance closely, but not too close… slide your mouth and tongue back down her body, slowly winding your way to the top of her pubic bone. Kiss the area, gently bite and lick and suck, but do not pause, continue moving around.

Run your tongue and fingers down the insides of her legs, all the way to her feet and toes… massage gently, take time to react if she wants her feet massage, kissed or licked. Smile at her.

Kiss up the inside of her legs and thighs, savour her smells and gently lift her legs apart with hands. Following your hands, your mouth attaches to the inside of her thigh and ever so gently reach out with your tongue and touch her lips, gently slide your tongue between the folds and find the lubrication whilst adding your own to her gentle skin. Slide your hands to the inside of her thighs, lift your mouth and tongue and find her clitoris. Now take your time… gently move your tongue over, snapping with gentle caresses and listen to her ‘yes’, ‘more’, ‘less’… wait for the signals, go slowly, go gently, go harmonically. Cover your mouth gently over her pussy, move your tongue slowly up and down her lips, taste her in your mouth and feel her tension within your own body. Tease and be teased. Move gently back to her clitoris, dance with your tongue, sing her praises and go with her rhythym.

Moving your fingers into position over her clitoris, roll your fingers back and forward, gently, gently rolling her clitoris on your fingertips. Take guidance, go slowly, keep the gentle rolling rhythms in your head on her body. Go with her when she wants more, faster, deeper, wanting and deep desire. When she wants you slow down, move your fingers away and go to work again with your tongue.

Move your tongue deeper inside her, taste her and envelope your senses in her smell, in her wet, in her tension. Slowly slide one finger down while sucking her clitoris, take it as she wants it. Slowly, rhythmically move your fingers inside her, taking her tension to the maximum. Increase the pace and intensity on her clitoris with your tongue, insert more fingers as desired….

Take your tongue from her clitoris, gently slide the very tip of your tongue to her inner thighs, feel the shudder, relish the tension and smile….

Take your mouth and lips and teeth and gently work your way across her inner thighs, gently pressing your mouth to her erotic zones and all the way back up over her chest, breasts and neck…. Gently kissing her all the way.

Embrace, hold and continue to gently kiss…….

Hope it’s OK… feel free to criticise at will …. :)
A

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25 hour shifts are *not* good for your health

March 24th, 2004

The OT is nice and all, but staying back on continuous days ain’t the most pleasant way to live life.

I’m writing this while dead-tired but generally happy that quite a few things have worked out over the last 24 hours. The ones I can talk about are:

- Our site is now back up and running
- Eve will be stoked because she can now see this picture. (yes babe, they are very very spunky)
- Yes, Eve asked me to d/l the photo for her because she can’t see it at Smitten’s site.
- I found out about some minor health kinks that were starting to worry me, but now make me feel the fool for I’ve consumed too much caffeine of late.

The bad stuff…

meh…

- Wedding speech didn’t go so crash-hot… mind you my last post on the topic was as I arrived in the door from the wedding with no sleep. I don’t think I really want to talk about it at length at this point in time.

- I don’t know what’s happening with work, but i’d like to know so I can make some plans (dammit!)…

- My mum’s upset with me (like crying upset… my mother *never* cries)… this is disconcerting as I simply don’t know how to deal with an overly-emotional female parent.

- I haven’t had a chance to read my favourite blogs.. hopefully in the next few days i’ll catch up.

- Because of aformentioned work, I haven’t swam for two days (grrr)

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Anyhow, loving all your work still. Though some of my authors could have added some content while I was on my hiatus!

Adam

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Swimming Stats update

March 22nd, 2004

Appearance: Work in progress
Laps last week: 93
Km?s last week: 2.325
Estimated laps this week: 103

Totals (since 02/02/2004):

Laps: 390
Km?s: 9.750

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for what I fear most

March 20th, 2004

has happened to me this evening.

I gave my speech in front of a crowd of 130. Spoken too long (after possibly a few alcoholic beverages) I found myself berated for my efforts and ousted for my non-conformist approach to the toastmastering form.

I am always a believer that one should be free of the barriers that ‘society’ sets upon us, but I know only too well that societies pressures are far stronger than one man (or woman) can ever hope to repel. In my quest to be open and honest with my brother about his chosen path, I have felt inadequate and unloved of my thoughts, doused by the needs of the drunken souls to keep my talk-time under 5 minutes.

Matt (brother): Please share the details of this site with nobody. You have become witness to these writings by default, but I wish nobody on the outside of the circle which you pertrude in to have knowledge of my thoughts.

Am I bitter, angry, upset, scared, fearful… yes to all of these counts. Do I feel liberated for sharing my ideas, expressing my opinions (on such a topic as love to which I admittedly have no real experience)… certainly not.

Would I turn back the clock, not give the speech, or gag myself to the perfunctories of ‘thankyou’s’ and backslapping which has become the expectation of even close family members these days… yes.. yes I would.

Am I just a bitter mid-twenties fool who feels that his word of opinion is greater than that of his colleagues. Do I feel unloved for my hefty (sic) contribution to the world? Of course. Does this make me an arrogant prick at best and a downright bastard at worst. Yes that would be correct.

Do I still want to cry when I think about fucking up a speech at my brothers wedding….

Absolutely.

A

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Friday Five – 19/03/2004

March 19th, 2004

1. …owned a restaurant, what kind of food would you serve?
Italian

2. …owned a small store, what kind of merchandise would you sell?
Coffee Shop or something similar

3. …wrote a book, what genre would it be?
Autobiography (no, i’m not vein, it’s just the only thing i’d know how to write about!)

4. …ran a school, what would you teach?
All the structure, but include real-world life skills

5. …recorded an album, what kind of music would be on it?
Pop, Rock… probably…. unless of course it was jazz.. hmmmm

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Wedding Speech

March 19th, 2004

I hope you like it…. mind you it’s 9pm and i’ll probably re-revise this about 200 times before the early hours of tomorrow morning ….

Loving all your work
A

I have thought long and hard on what to say on this day about the marriage of my younger brother matt, to his beautiful bride, Leigh. I?m really not sure if I?m going to get it right, but I?m going to try to share with you a few moments of my thoughts, and hopefully, one day, just maybe, I?ll be lucky enough to have someone standing up here making a speech for me.

When Matt asked me to be a part of the wedding party, I balked… I mean do you know how much it costs to hire this suit……. OK.. bad jokes aside :) ….

When Matt asked me to be a part of the wedding party I started to consider in my head what love means to me, and in particular, the way it affects us, the way it touches us, and most importantly, the way it chooses us.

I have been blessed to witness some amazing relationships at work over both the short and long term. I have learnt, above all else, that love is hard work, dedication, honesty, reverence, patience and laughter. It?s also tears and heartache, bad days, weeks and months when nothing seems to be working and nothing seems right. I did find a common theme amongst all of these relationships: for love to work you need to work at it.

When I think of love I think we all think about the good times, of all the Kodak moments, of all the happy memories. But the reality of love is in the day-to-day, the sharing of moments, the personal and spiritual growth and the ability to see each other how nobody else sees you. When you allow yourself to love you give yourself to something you?re not really in control, merely a part of.

On the other side of my thoughts was the feeling that love chooses us, as has been proven thousands of times in the past. Cupid will string his bow, choose his target and you are captured under his spell. Of course cupids spell is more likely to be the smell of her perfume or the way she looks most beautiful in the mornings. It can also be the way he has brought home roses and shared his innermost thoughts on least expectation. Love chooses us because it?s more powerful than we are. Though to make love work you must work at it.

Love has chosen the both of you. It has cast it?s spell upon you and delivered you to each other. By what means you had the opportunity to meet we will never know, nor should we really ever ask. My only advice to you is to remember to put in the hard work, take the time and give yourself wholly, for that is the only way love can prosper.

Finally, I never thought about having a sister until I realised that I get all the benefits and none of the disadvantages. It?s the perfect situation?.. no bathroom stealing, no ?my brothers a stupid head? name-calling and definitely no strange boys being brought home that I have to try to beat up because they?re not good enough for my opposite sex sibling

Though, of course, and this does go without saying, I know some of Matt?s deepest and darkest secrets of which I?m sure I?ll be sharing a few with leigh at the conclusion of these speeches ?. Well, maybe after a few alcoholic beverages have been consumed!

Today I don?t lose a brother to a bride, I gain a new generation of the Joy family into my life. I can?t think of a better memory of this day for many many years to come. So without further adue, I welcome Mr and Mrs Joy, Matt and Leigh into all of our worlds.

May you remain as happy as you are today.

Adam Uncategorized

testing testing

March 18th, 2004

ok… so lets see how this goes..

Links…
robustious.net/rough
Check!

Category…. interesting…
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Stress

March 16th, 2004

I’m stressed folks…. stressed stressed stressed….

(btw, i’m also testing the ‘extended entry’ segment of this thing, so let’s see how it goes…
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First post in MT :)

March 15th, 2004

Well kids we’re *finally* starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve got to go through and categorise all of these posts (will happen over the next few days), handover a ton of crap to Michelle to continue bugfixing/adding/editing until all is meticulously completed and then i’ll have free reign to go and post some of my previous archived posts.

1. Formatting of these pages (particularly the front page) is still a work in progress, please be patient.

2. Photos will be forthcoming, they’re there, they just need to be re-edited to accomodate them in a new location.

3. Links/references will probably be broken left, right and centre atm. This is mainly due to the need to republish the site when things are fixed (or attempting to be fixed) so again, please be patient.

4. I won’t be able to import my Haloscan comments :( …. but alas, such is life, there’s so much more to this system that makes it worhwhile in my opinion.

Loving all your work
Adam

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Swimming Stats update

March 15th, 2004

Appearance: Work in progress
Laps last week: 83
Km?s last week: 2.075
Estimated laps this week: 93

Totals (since 02/02/2004):

Laps: 297
Km?s: 7.425

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