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I agree with you Dan (pleased to meet ya by the way), sex definitely is a control thing, but I don’t think it directly relates to bj’s or oral sex though. It has never once crossed my mind that if I give a guy a bj I’ll have the advantage/control over the situation…. believe me the full body massage with oil works much better

I think control is more a mental thing, allowing how much of yourself your going to give to the situation & how much you can, as Dan put it, “make someone go weak at the knees, scream your name to the heavens then pass out from the most amazing orgasm of their lives”.
After the first one night stand I can remember thinking – umm ok so when do I start to feel cheap – didn’t happen! I was in control of how I felt & what I did, I’d had a good night & obviously so did he cause he came back for more…

Anyway, I do have a opinion on the receiving of oral sex though. My ex could never get it right so it was never really mind blowing. Which leads me to what you were saying Adam about wanting a girl to tell you what she wants. My ex hated when I’d start to “suggest” to him what he should do. U see this is where it gets tricky if a girls not supposed to have slept with multiple guys how the hell is she supposed to talk about it without everyone out there thinking she’s a slut? I’ll give it a go anyway… ;o) I’m just going to be honest. I’ve slept with 2 guys since my ex (no long division here!). One lasted about 6 weeks & he’d love it when I’d tell him what got me off. On a side note: first important lesion that I’ve learnt with the whole sexual freedom thing (don’t know if it applies for guys) is not to keep the repeated one night (casual) thing going with the same guy for more than a few weeks. I ended up falling for him, just a little, but not something that I really needed to do at the time. It had it’s good & bad points. Bad, that I feel for him. Good, cause the sex just kept getting better!!!!
Anyway, the second since my ex was just a one night stand & when I said “a little to the left” he shied away, so go figure”…? My take on it is that on one hand there are some guys out there that like it & on the other hand I think that some guys get a bit intimidated by it…?

Slut v’s nice girl…
I think we’ll have to blame this one on society as a whole & stereotypical norms…
I’m a pretty up front person, in case you can’t tell & I’d hate to think that I’d have to lie about my sexual history – not that there’s a lot to lie about at the moment but that’s not the point. I’m a big believer that every experience you encounter adds to you as a person so to lie about it doesn’t go down to well (no pun intended). I might have to do a bit more thinking on this one….

Rach Uncategorized sex and love