Sex, lies and blowjob counts
On headcount
Without getting into exact numbers, i’ve had more partners than you can count on one hand of fingers, but not more than two hands. I’m a 25 year old male.
On consistency
As far as consistency goes, I can honestly say that i’m happy if i’m engaging in some haystack-rolling on three (3) to four (4) occasions per week (inclusive of public holidays, weekends and other syndicated events).
For me what’s important is contact with another person, having them around and the knowledge that you can engage in the activity, which is almost as good as the activity itself imho.
On the line between BJ and all-the-way
Now a question for all the ladies out there. Why is that a BJ (i’m guessing you all know what i’m talking about) is considered morally (?) different to the entire act?
For me, I would consider the sexual act to be far less “evasive” (for lack of a better word) than oral sex. I thoroughly enjoy the oral sex act, and I enjoy it when i’m involved in a sexual relationship with someone, but I wouldn’t regard oral sex and sex to be mutually exclusive.
However, over the passing years, i’ve found an extraordinarily large amount of women who will gladly swallow 12,000,000 potential human beings in a moment of passion with a boy, but offer moral outrage at the prospect of going “all the way” … this is a strange concept to me, and i’m hoping I can get some clarification on the topic.
On timelines
I don’t put guidelines on when the right time is. (though, the Hoodoo Gurus: Right Time song just popped into my head 
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I’ve had the physical dimensions of a relationship develop at a rapid-fire pace, whereas others have moved at tortoise-like speeds, with the ensuing blue-balls syndrome occurring in an even more cruel fashion than forced hiatus of which I live at this moment.
I believe for me it’s because I am rather picky when it comes to making mental and emotional contact with another human being before I decide that I want to let them see my ‘O’ face a-la American Pie.
(now now guys, let the laughter die down before you respond to that last statement)
incoherent rambling for today
And one more point before I push this baby out like a foot-first foetus desperate to stay in the womb.
I’m appalled at the people who are engaged in relationships, but see their sexual encounters as a chore or hindrence tlo their lifestyle choices. A partners commitment to their sexuality (in all it’s forms) holds an equal stance with communication, understanding, affection and commitment. If it’s not working in the bedroom, then you need to start to examine all segments of your relationship and plug those holes (again, no pun intended).
I once heard from a sex therapist (on the radio) this quote which has carried me for many days.
It’s the 1 and 99 rule. If your sex life is adequate, it’s 1% of your relationship. If it’s not adequate, it’s 99% of your relationship. How true it is.
Over and out
Adam
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